Today, I'm writing about three very special fathers...all of whom mean the world to me.
To the one that gave me life
On December 16th, 1975...I was born in San Angelo, Texas to Peter and Brenda Belocas. Tamara Lynn Belocas they would name me....which would be my name sake until the day I married. Peter John Belocas...you gave me life.....and my dark curly hair....and my dark expressive eyes. You probably contributed to my bad genetics and love/ addiction to food (I won't hold you completely responsible). You very likely contributed to my love for science and math and all things....education!
I wish I had the opportunity to know you....to know all the good, amazing things I've heard. I wish I had been able to hear your voice....feel your touch....smell your skin.....know your heart. Unfortunately, you left us too soon....tragically dying when I was only 3 months old. So, those things were not able to happen. But today....I want to say thank you. Thank you for loving my mom. Thank you for envisioning a life that included me in it. Thank you for being the kind of man/ husband/ father....about whom people have wonderful things to say. The kind of man that would make a daughter proud....even if she didn't get to know you.
To the one that taught me life
You took a chance! You joined an insta-family! You re-kindled a high school love with my mom...even though there was an additional "piece" to the puzzle. You are the one that I call Dad, the only one I know as Dad. I always hated explaining why we had different last names. "He's my Dad....last name doesn't matter!" That's all people needed to know really. Why they questioned it...I don't know.
You are the one that was always there....dance recitals, piano recitals, bad attempts at sports games (soccer, basketball), awards ceremonies. You are the one that taught me about self-discipline and self-motivation and self-awareness. To quote "Tammy...wherever you go...YOU will be there." In other words....take a look at your life. You are in control. It is not your surroundings that make your life....it's what YOU do with YOUR life and the people in it.
I will be able to tell my adopted children...."Hey, I totally know and understand what it means and feels like to be loved unconditionally by a man whose genetics you don't share. Whose blood doesn't pump through your body. Who wasn't there on the day you were born. Isn't it AMAZINGLY awesome to be loved that much!"
And now...to watch you with MY kids. You are just simply....the best Poppie I could ever hope for my kids to know and love.
Thank you for taking a chance! Thank you for loving me! I love you.
To the one with whom I share life
My love...my soul-mate...my partner...my best-friend....my husband. So many years, just you and me...me and you. I knew from the way beginning the man of integrity I was so honored to be marrying. I knew from the start that God had blessed me with a husband that had been taught by his father how to respect women, how to be the spiritual leader of the home, and how to love, unconditionally, the woman he was to marry.
I did NOT know...nor did I ever imagine the type of father you would become. Traveling down a path that for so many years....seemed as though it would not include the opportunity to be a father. Who would have known that you....CHRISTOPHER LYN VAUGHT....would be this extraordinary.
You stepped up to the challenge of fatherhood in a way that many men are not capable. You embraced a little boy (at the age of 8 months) with love and affection (often alone as a single dad while I traveled for work), and began the steps of molding and guiding him into a wonderful child of God. He is learning from you....every day! He sees how you treat his mommy. He listens to you as you read...sing....pray with him. He understands your strong leadership in our home and your reasoning for discipline. I am so thankful that Cristian has you...his daddy...to be his guide and "person" in this life.
You stepped up to the challenge of fatherhood in a way that many men are not capable. You embraced a little boy (at the age of 8 months) with love and affection (often alone as a single dad while I traveled for work), and began the steps of molding and guiding him into a wonderful child of God. He is learning from you....every day! He sees how you treat his mommy. He listens to you as you read...sing....pray with him. He understands your strong leadership in our home and your reasoning for discipline. I am so thankful that Cristian has you...his daddy...to be his guide and "person" in this life.
And for Scarlett....your little girl. You were there the day she was born (tomorrow...one year ago!)....waiting in the waiting room for me to come share the joy with you. She has you wrapped around her little perfect finger Daddy's girl for sure! The affection and pure, unbridled emotion I see in your face when you hold her is like nothing I've ever known. You will be the one to whom she compares all other men. You will be the one with whom she shares her fears. Why??? Because you, my love, are her protector. You are her father!!
I'm so in love....with watching you love our children. Thank you for being you. Thank you for being on the journey of parenthood with me. Thank you for being the most amazing father I could ever hope to have along with me in this life. I love you!