All a long, we thought Tank was going home once his mother was ready to be a safe parent. So, when we were approached by CPS to adopt Tank...we were stunned. CPS had decided to change the goal for Tank from reunification with parents to termination of parental right....and adoption by us.
Are you serious?? What happened? Why the change? Well...due to some circumstances which I can't divulge (and frankly aren't important)...it was decided that Tank's mom was not doing the neccessary things to make herself a safe parent for Tank.
After some talking, thought, and much prayer....we decided we would love to make our home Tank's forever home! And...cue freak out moment...as this was becoming REALLY real!
We had what was supposed to be "Final Court" for Tank on Nov 27th. That was HELL! Complete and utter hell. Sitting there...not know what is going to happen....knowing that for someone, either us or Tank's birthmom, this day was not going to end well. It would be a sad....for someone. Well...the judge granted a 6 month extension....meaning she was giving mom one last 6 month chance to show she could be a safe, responsible parent for her child. So...what does that mean for us? We wait! We continue to love Tank....and we wait! UGH!!!
Now that is not the ONLY change in Novemeber....just wait for this bomb!
I went to lunch the following day with a friend. I was coming off the massive emotional drama from the day before and had just eaten my weight in mexican food...when she asks to talk to me about something "personal".
"My niece is pregnant...she is due in June....and she wants to place the baby for adoption. I've told her about you and Chris. She wants to meet you guys....to see if you y'all are a match for possibly adopting her baby."
Can you hear the crickets! I was speechless! ARE YOU SERIOUS???
To which I respond....you are going to have to give us some time on this one! I will get back with you. And in the mean time...if you guys decide you need to move on and pursue another adoptive option...I totally understand! We agreed to talk in a few weeks.
I sat in my car shaking....how was I going to tell Chris about this. He was not going to handle it well!
His response...."Are you kidding me? I can't process that right now! I need time."
So...time we took...until January!
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